Just read a short (3 minute) article from The Virginian Pilot and its worth a quick read. The idea that a player – after having rec’d a free education through a scholarship – would say: “The guys who don’t go on to the NBA, once they leave college, they look back and say, ‘Wow, I was exploited — and I have nothing to show for it.” … is a great example of the dangerous attitude of ungratefulness.
“The guys who don’t go on to the NBA, once they leave college, they look back and say, ‘Wow, I was exploited — and I have nothing to show for it.”
We’ve written about gratefulness on TourneyBuddy.
We all tend to think we are experiencing a tougher road in life than others. Whether it is a sibling that seems to have had an easier upbringing, other coaches that always get the calls or another kid that is getting all the game time. We all feel like we are running into a headwind and the deck is stacked against our success sometimes. As coaches and parents it is critical for us not to feed this resentment within our aspiring athletes.
Good coaches find ways to encourage gratitude within the team.
Gratitude is good for us and research has shown that those people that notice the tailwind in their life are more satisfied, sleep better and see the doctor less. Maybe thanking mom after the big game isn’t a cliche but an important step that recognizes the gift that even playing the game is, no matter the role.
So rather than seeing the obstacles and complaining about the referees, the other team, or a lack of playing time encourage your athlete to notice the tailwind in their life. It might just add to their enjoyment of the process and the success of your team.
Doug DeVries has been working in youth basketball for over 25 years. He has a passion to see sports in balance in life, for kids to thrive in sports, and for parents to enjoy the entire process.